5 Top Tips for Writing a Valentines Love Letter

Published: 10 February 2021
Posted by: English Heritage
Category: Historic How Tos

Throughout history, love letters have been a highly cherished gift between lovers. As a budding writer in a digital world, it can be hard to know where to start when putting those feelings down on paper.

We asked English Heritage Senior Curator Rowena Willard-Wright to give her top tips inspired by history to help you re-discover the lost art of love letters this Valentine's Day.

1. Queen Victoria: Focus on a memory you've shared together

Create the structure around a shared experience, for example the first time you met, a memorable date, even your wedding! This 1839 letter from a soon to be married Prince Albert to Queen Victoria, focuses on the young lovers last meeting:

'How that moment shines for me still when I was close to you, with your hand in mine. Those days flew by so quickly, but our separation will fly equally so'.

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2. Charles Darwin: Don't focus on their flaws

Before marrying his wife Emma, Charles Darwin wrote a list of pros and cons regarding the nuptials, in it he muses that a wife is an ‘object to be beloved & played with — better than a dog anyhow’. Luckily the wedding went ahead despite this, Darwin made up for his previous writings with a love letter he gave to Emma in 1839 before their Wedding Day:

'How I do hope you shall be happy as I know I shall be. My own dearest Emma, I earnestly pray, you may never regret the great and I will add very good, deed you are to perform on the Tuesday: my own dear future wife, God bless you…'.

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3. Elizabeth I: Write every word like it's your last

Elizabeth l and her suitor, Robert Dudley frequently exchanged love letters until his death in 1588, whilst on route to Kenilworth Castle; which Dudley created to impress his Queen in 1575. After Elizabeth’s death 15 years later, a small box was found by her bed, in it was Dudley’s final letter to her, Elizabeth had written on the envelope ‘His last letter’.

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Painting of Elizabeth I

4. Catherine Howard: Be sure to send it to the right person

In 1541, whilst 8 months into her marriage with King Henry Vlll, Catherine Howard wrote a love letter whilst at Lyddington Bede House to Thomas Culpepper, a gentleman of the Kings privy chamber. However, the letter was discovered, both Culpepper and Catherine were arrested and put on trial for treason. By the end of the year Catherine’s lover Culpepper had been executed.

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5. Letters from the Somme: Be yourself

Cornish boy John Glasson Thomas ‘Tommy’ met Gertrude Brooks ‘Gertie’ on the eve of WW1. The two formed an instant bond and wrote to each other through Tommy’s retention at Pendennis Castle and the Battle of the Somme. The letters are a mix of day to day news; Cornish pasty based jokes, and small bursts of affection:

Tommy to Gertie, 16th October, The Somme:

(Your)’letter arrived just before we marched and I can assure you I was delighted to get it. Twas like a ray of light on what had been a dull time of weary work for me, and shed a sort of consoling ray on the winding up'.

Tommy died in 1917, cutting their love story tragically short. However Tommy’s letters stayed with Gertie, and she never married. Years later Gertie wrote to her niece: 'nobody could take the place of the one I lost'.

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Pendennis Castle at Sunset

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